Hey there bondage matey’s – it’s Captain Cecilia. This Sunday at 8 pm EST at the www.communitykink.com chatroom – we’ll be talking about bondage. I know, what’s so strange about bondage? A statistic I read says that 3/4 of men find bondage erotic! Do you find bondage erotic? If so – why?
Some have made some philosophies as to why bondage is so appealing: that it helps you to relinquish control and takes some pressures off you in a world that is very demanding in every way imaginable.
As wikipedia defines, People who find it erotic to be tied up find it so for a variety of reasons:
* The most frequently cited reason is a mental freedom from inhibitions and responsibility since they have, in a way, given up control of the sexual situation to follow. This is sometimes referred to as a “power exchange.”
* Some like the tactile feeling of restraint, that is, the feeling of pressure or pulling.
* Some enjoy the feeling of helplessness for its own sake. Some like to struggle aggressively against their bonds, particularly when being sexually or otherwise stimulated. There are some in this category who play bondage games that do not include a significant sexual component.
* To intensify the experience of orgasm control or of orgasm denial.
* Some derive pleasure from symbolic degradation (less common). People who enjoy role playing prison or mental hospital situations probably fit best in this category.
* Fetishistic interest in the mechanics of bondage, with particular interest in the equipment and restraints used. Some of these people are interested in the look, feel, and aroma of leather and rubber restraints. Others are fascinated by the relationship between the geometry of the tie, the degrees of freedom remaining and the feelings elicited.
* As an adjunct to other BDSM activities
* Like hang gliding or mountaineering, some feel that bondage allows them to do something potentially dangerous in a safe way.
* Extreme forms of bondage such as mummification some people enjoy because it is like being placed in a sensory deprivation tank and may allow the person being placed in extreme bondage to experience an out-of-body experience.
* In the wide range of human sexual experience, there are probably a few other reasons.
People who enjoy tying other people up are motivated by a variety of reasons, including:
* Taking pleasure in the erotic submission of their partner
* The feeling of trust which comes from another person placing their physical freedom in their hands
* Wishing to please their partner, and the stimulation engendered by their partner’s pleasure in it
* Fetishistic interest in the elegance of bondage, with particular interest in the geometric patterns and symmetry (or artistic asymmetry) of the restraint
* Using bondage as an adjunct to other BDSM activities
* Enjoyment of the power and control one has over a restrained partner; people for whom this is a principal motivation may have trouble making it much fun for the other person.
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There are also those who love self-bondage, and mummification – which is another extreme form of bondage that we discussed last week.
As your captain of the bondage cruise ship, we must go over safety! It’s a good idea to eat during a long bondage session so you don’t pass out from lack of food, make sure you are in a position that you don’t suffocate (postural asphyxia), and having a means to get out *just in case* you’ve really pissed your Mistress off and she leaves you there. Of course, you better stay hiding because if you got yourself out of the bondage – chances are – she could punish you even worse.
Also, a safe word is very important. If you can’t handle it, then shout out the safe word you’ve agreed upon.
So, Me and Captain Claire will be gathering you in our fishnets and binding you up come Sunday! Don’t forget our 2 girl call special for $3 a minute on Sunday night.
I am *trying* to get on the radio before our 8 pm hosted chat – please check out www.cockradio.com to see if I’m on the air. Also, July 1 is our big cockradio.com bash! There will be many Mistresses on, including Me – if I don’t have equipment failure.
See you then tarts – Ms Cecilia
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